Bridget www.TNMA.org's Blog

As I laid in my bed one night battling within my mind from the hurt on how my marriage has turned, I can't help but to wonder how many other individuals are or have gone  through these same feelings.  I recently saw some close friends and associates separating or divorcing their mates for one reason or another. Some separated because of money, adultery, irreconcilable differences.

Some of them were married for just a short while others were married for a years  but no matter the length they were married many of them still ended up in departure. Now here is the catch, instead of the getting totally healed from whatever it was that caused their relationships to fail, many of them entered into another relationship.  We wonder how cycles continue, but before we can go through the healing process, we end up filling that void with others instead of God. 

I find myself crying out many nights for couples especially women that has been disappointed in this area. My word to you is forgive before you find a  superficial replacement to help you fill the void of hurt and  loneliness, allow God to heal you totally by forgiving the situation  and forgiving yourself.

Separation: If God have not release you from that person. Don't be so quick to take matters in your hand. Take this time to let God work on YOU (God doesn't need your help to fix your mate). 

Divorce: For the ones that have already taken action and are now divorced, Please take this time to allow God to heal you. We don't want to keep on continuing the same vicious cycle because we have not taken time of get delivered and fully healed. Statistics says that divorced people who remarry are more likely to be divorced again. 

To destroy this statistic and break this terrible cycle, you must be willing to see yourself and your issues, deal with them, and wait on God to prepare your perfect mate.  If you do this then, we can stop the cycle of divorce and create a health family by not choosing people out of the flesh and not yielding to the spirit of God!!!! It’s time to forgive and be healed.

When are we ever going to stop being the patients in the hospital and start being part of the physician staff? Seeing our personal faults that need correction, I hear the lord say be healed. I am praying for you.  As I am going through my time of separation this was a revelation God had awaken me with. So this was once again a personal message to me that I felt like sharing!

Bridget

Sorry for any typos!